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• October 14, 2025

How Modern Upbringing Creates Difficult Life Partners – And Why Astrology Is Key to Saving Marriages

Marriage has always been called a sacred bond. It was once seen as the safest shelter of life — the one place where two souls promised to stand by each other, no matter what storms came.

But look around today — the story feels very different. The rise of broken marriages, divorces, extra-marital affairs, even extreme cases of spousal violence and murder — is shocking. Today, we don’t just hear of separation — we hear of betrayal, conspiracy, even partners plotting each other’s death. These are not rare headlines anymore; they are everyday realities.

The question naturally arises: “Are these problems written in the stars? Or is something deeper going wrong in us as human beings?”

Because the truth is — Saturn, Mars, Rahu, Ketu, Jupiter — these planets have not changed. They were there 100 years ago as well. People had difficult charts then too. Marriages faced struggle then too. Yet the outcomes were not so extreme, not so frequent.

So what changed?
👉 The planets are the same.
👉 But our reaction to their influence has changed.
👉 And at the root of this reaction lies one thing: Upbringing.

🌿 Teacher’s Insight: Astrology reveals tendencies, but it is human culture and upbringing that decide whether those tendencies bloom into harmony or explode into disaster.

1. Childhood – The Seed of Future Relationships
A marriage does not fail suddenly on the wedding day. The failure begins years earlier — in childhood. The way a child is raised decides how he or she will behave with a life partner later.

Today’s typical childhood looks like this:
• A single child in the family. No cousins, no siblings to share toys or fight with.
• Both parents working. The child spends most of the day in daycare, with a maid, or simply with gadgets.
• Instead of mother’s lap, the comfort comes from cartoons. Instead of father’s words, the background sound is a mobile ringtone.

Ask yourself: what is this child learning? That relationships matter? Or that toys, gadgets, and money can replace love?

Parents argue: “We are working for the child’s future.”
But the child’s heart does not need only a future; it needs affection now.

In older generations, children grew up surrounded by family. Even if money was less, love was abundant. There was waiting, patience, discipline. A balloon or toy was not given every day. A new cycle was sometimes waited for months. That waiting created patience.

But today, the same balloon, toy, or pizza is just one click away. Instant delivery has replaced patience with entitlement.

👉 And when such a child grows up and faces the first “No” in marriage, the mind breaks. The person simply does not know how to bend.

✨ Teacher’s Insight
I often tell my students: “A marriage does not succeed or fail on the wedding day. It is decided years earlier, in childhood. The values a child grows up with decide whether tomorrow they will learn to adjust — or only demand.”

🌿 Reflective Line
In my counseling sessions I have seen again and again: “A child who never learns to hear ‘No’ at home finds the very first conflict in marriage to be a storm.”

2. What Upbringing Teaches Without Words
Upbringing is not only about what parents say; it is about what the child silently sees.

Imagine a little boy — the only child at home. Both parents are working, so he spends most of his day with a maid or a gadget. In the evenings, instead of laughter, he often sees his mother and father arguing. When he cries for attention, a toy or mobile is pushed into his hand. On weekends, parents take him shopping, trying to make up for lost time with gifts. Slowly, without a single word being spoken, this child is learning what relationships mean.

   •When parents fight every day, the child absorbs: “Marriage means conflict.”
   •When parents replace hugs with gifts, the child absorbs: “Money equals love.”
   •When a crying toddler is silenced with a mobile, the child bonds more with cartoons than with people.
   •When indulgence replaces discipline, the child absorbs: “Every wish must be fulfilled instantly.”

No words are spoken, yet lessons are carved deep into the subconscious.
Years later, the same child becomes someone’s husband or wife. And here comes the real test: Can such a person handle rejection? Can they wait when life moves slowly? Can they listen when a partner disagrees? Almost never.

✨ Teacher’s Insight
I often tell my students: “A child doesn’t learn relationships from lectures; they learn by watching their parents. If home is filled with fights, silence, or gadgets, that becomes their script for marriage.”

🌿 Reflective Line
“What a child silently witnesses becomes the language they unconsciously speak in marriage.”

3. The Astrological Lens
Imagine a small child, sitting alone in a flat.
Mother and father are both at work. A maid leaves him with a mobile so he doesn’t cry. He watches cartoons where characters scream and fight, he copies their tantrums. In the evening, parents come home tired. Instead of talking, they argue over money and stress. To pacify the child, they bring a toy or pizza.

Now pause for a moment.
What is this child learning?
That emotions must be suppressed, not expressed.
That shouting wins over listening.
That gadgets are better companions than people.
That love equals money or gifts.

🌿 This everyday picture is where the nine planets begin writing their script in the child’s subconscious.

🌙 Moon (Mind & Emotions):
If upbringing weakens emotional security, Moon afflictions hit harder. Such natives become moody, restless, and emotionally fragile.

🌟 Mercury (Logic & Communication):
When healthy conversations are missing in childhood, Mercury weakens. Words turn into weapons instead of bridges.

💖 Venus (Love & Affection):
If real affection is replaced with toys and gadgets, Venus loses sweetness. Marriage feels like a transaction, not companionship.

🔥 Mars (Energy & Temper):
If a child only sees arguments at home, Mars becomes a torch of anger. Instead of courage and protection, it creates fights, shouting, and impulsive reactions.

⏳ Saturn (Patience & Discipline):
When everything is instant — food, clothes, entertainment — Saturn’s lesson of patience is never learnt. Later, even small delays in marriage feel unbearable.

🌌 Rahu (Illusion & Temptation):
With early gadget-addiction, Rahu finds a lifelong playground. Illusions multiply, fantasies dominate, and temptations become irresistible.

🪷 Ketu (Roots & Tradition):
If children are cut off from family values, Ketu feels ignored. Without grounding in tradition, Rahu’s illusions easily take over.

🌞 Sun (Ego & Identity):
When a child is told only “You are special” without balance, Sun inflates into ego. In marriage, this becomes: “I must shine, my partner must adjust.”

📿 Jupiter (Wisdom & Values):
If elders and gurus are absent in upbringing, Jupiter’s guidance weakens. Without moral compass, knowledge does not become wisdom — it becomes arrogance.

👉 This is why we see so many charts today where normal planetary afflictions create extreme results. The planets are not stronger — it is our weakened upbringing that has reduced our resistance.

✨ Teacher’s Insight
I often tell my students: “Planets are like examiners. If upbringing has not prepared you, even a small test feels like a punishment. But if values are strong, the same exam becomes a chance to prove your strength.”

🌿 Reflective Line
“The planets have not become harsher — it is we who have become softer from within.”

4. Why Old Generations Managed Better
Picture your grandparents’ world. A crowded courtyard, children running barefoot, elders sitting under a tree telling stories. New clothes came only on Diwali or weddings. Toys were shared, food was simple, and one stern look from a grandfather could settle any quarrel.

Did they not have Mars affliction? Did Saturn not test patience? Of course they did. Yet marriages survived.

Why? Because upbringing created resilience.
• They had heard “No” many times as children, so compromise came naturally.
• They had family elders as role models, so patience and respect were woven into life.
• Even Rahu’s illusions had no gadgets to play with — no mobiles, no social media, no dating apps.

So the same planets, the same afflictions, led to smaller problems, not disasters.

✨ Teacher’s Insight
I often remind my students: “Resilience is not written in the chart; it is built in the home. The stronger the roots, the gentler the storms feel.”

🌿 Reflective Line
“Our elders faced the same stars, but they faced them with stronger hearts.”

5. The Modern Reality: Reactions Gone Extreme
Picture a young couple in today’s time.
A small disagreement starts over something trivial — dinner choice, weekend plans, or even a late reply on WhatsApp.

But see how quickly it escalates:

   •Within minutes, ego takes over: “My way or highway.”
   •Anger rises — voices get louder, sometimes objects fly.
   •A simple disappointment soon slips into depression: “Maybe this relationship is worthless.”
   •Curiosity, fuelled by easy access, tempts one partner into chatting with someone else online.
   •Frustration hardens into revenge. And in extreme cases, the unthinkable happens — violence, or even murder.

Astrologically, this is not new. Mars has always tested us with fire, Rahu with illusions, Saturn with pressure.
But earlier, upbringing acted like a cushion. Family values, patience, and social boundaries softened the blow.

Now that cushion is gone. The same planetary affliction lands like a direct strike. The result? Marriages collapse not slowly, but explosively.

🌿 Teacher’s Insight
I often tell my clients: “Planets don’t make you violent. They only trigger what is already inside you. If upbringing has left you raw and untrained, one spark from Mars or Rahu can burn down the whole house.”

✨ Reflective Line
“It is not the planets that became harsher — it is we who became fragile, without the shield of patience and values.”

6. Prevention is Better than Cure
So the big question: Can this situation be saved?
The answer is yes. But not by waiting for disaster. The only real solution is prevention.

a) For Parents Today
Childhood is where future relationships are seeded.
Yes, tell your child: “You can achieve everything.”
But also whisper the truths that life will surely teach:

   •“You will fail sometimes — and that’s okay.”
   •“Not every wish will be fulfilled instantly.”
   •“Patience and humility are as important as ambition.”

This balance creates adults who are ambitious, but also grounded. Such individuals can bend in marriage without breaking.

🌿 Teacher’s Insight
I often tell parents: “Don’t raise your child only for success. Raise them also for failure. Because marriage will test both.”

b) For Young Adults Entering Marriage
Here is where astrology becomes your vaccine — your preventive dose.

When someone comes to me for counseling, I don’t just calculate points of kundli milan. Instead, I study:

•How their Moon handles emotions.
•How their Mercury expresses feelings.
•How their Venus gives or withholds affection.
•How their Rahu clouds judgement with illusions.

And then I guide them with practical Do’s and Don’ts.

Example 1:
A girl with Mars + Ketu in her chart must marry a simple, grounded man. But she also needs to hear: “Don’t try to change his simplicity. That is the very shield that will protect your marriage.”

Example 2:
A boy with weak Venus must be told: “Don’t think money can replace love. Learn to give small daily gestures, or your wife will feel unloved.”

Example 3:
A girl once came to me with Mars + Rahu in her chart. On paper it looked like a sure sign of marital trouble. But Rahu also stands for “different culture, far away, foreign.”
I advised her to marry a man from a completely different background. She did, and today her marriage is stable and full of respect.

🌿 Reflective Punch Line
“Mars with Rahu doesn’t always mean destruction — sometimes it simply whispers: ‘Choose different, choose distant, and your marriage will survive.”

👉 This is not prediction. This is guidance. Astrology, when applied this way, is like a vaccine. It prevents the illness before it begins.

🌿 7. Why Astrology Matters More Than Ever
If upbringing is the seed, then astrology is the map — a map that tells you where storms may come, and where shelter can be found.

Think about today’s reality. Patience is thinner than ever. Options are infinite — a swipe, a click, a message, and temptations arrive instantly. In such a world, relationships don’t just need love, they need guidance. And that’s where astrology steps in.

Astrology does not remove destiny. But it does something far more precious:
👉 It shows where the cracks may appear before they widen.
👉 It reveals which illusions are waiting to trap you, so you can guard yourself in time.
👉 It guides you to strengthen the exact qualities your marriage will demand — patience, communication, humility, forgiveness.

I often tell my students: “Astrology is not about fear. It is about foresight. It is like carrying a torch while walking in the dark — the stones are still there, but now you can see them and step carefully.”

✨ Reflective Line
“In times when love bends under pressure, astrology teaches you how to bend without breaking.”

🌸 Closing Thought

Marriages today are not collapsing only because of planets.
They collapse because upbringing and environment amplify the planets’ negative side.

But there is always hope.
• Parents can raise the next generation with balance, patience, and values.
• Couples can seek preventive counseling before marriage.
• Individuals can understand the Do’s and Don’ts of their charts and consciously walk the path of harmony.

✨ This is astrology’s true role — not to declare doom, but to offer direction.
I often tell my students and clients:

👉 “See your chart not as a jail, but as a classroom.”
A jail locks you. A classroom guides you.

And if we are willing to learn the lessons, even the harshest planetary combinations can transform — from destroyers into protectors of marriage.

🌿 Astrology, to me, is not about predicting divorce.
It is about saving relationships before they collapse.
It is about reminding us that harmony is possible — when we are ready to bend, to listen, and to grow.

— Amit Shrivastava (Astro Amit)